@soppykat
Hello Soppykat,
I agree with you, that it is very challenging looking for suitable employment positions, even in the best circumstances. And I can sympathise and empathise with your feelings.
However, this note is not soft and cuddly.
Often, when I am responding to a fairly detailed post and responses, I list the issues, ideas, concerns, positive points and suggestions.
From the material that I separated, I noticed that there were many generalisations, a lot of reasons why you could not get a job, and many of those reasons were actually presented as reasons that you should be “given a job”. However, a lot of things that are given are not worth getting. The things worth getting, we have to work for, and that especially includes a position of any merit, even (possibly especially) part time or casual.
When we go into an interview with preconceived negative ideas about businesses and employers, those people can hardly be blamed for seeing through any image, presented by an applicant, that is supposed to convince them of a more positive view, that in effect does not exist. If you see those people from a negative perspective, that is often the image you will display, consciously or unconsciously.
This is definitely not their fault.
It is you who needs to smile. And preparedness will, I feel sure, alleviate, to a considerable degree, the anxiety. If you are excited about what you have to offer, and what you may learn, you have much less time and opportunity to be anxious.
#The foundation of effective affirmations.#
A good comment!!
"Leave copies of resumes everywhere, {where there is a reasonable chance of the type of position that you would be seeking} with a smile on your face.
Anxiety is challenging. I know this personally.
I challenge myself to push through anxiety."
{quoted from a comment by Sophia1}
In {x} brackets added by me.
Remember also that a business or employer is part of an industry with potential contacts. I have known of placements made by one person knowing of someone else with a position available. But they have to be confident enough, in you, to be comfortable passing on your details.
In your posts, I counted more than twenty-five self defeating statements. If you go into an interview without having done an amount of preparation and research into the business or industry, (and even the process of researching can be interesting); the skills, knowledge, expertise and experience; (as much or as little as that may be) that you have to offer and how you can avoid, or indicate that you have, at least considered, any issues that may arise from whatever disability that you have; then you are totally unprepared. Remember, that time is on your side - you are seeking low hours, so the employer has a chance to view what you can do, and any guidance that you may be prepared to ask for at work, at a reasonably low cost outlay. However, your cost per work hour is sometimes higher than that of a full-time employee. You have to be worth the outlay. Furthermore, It is very difficult for you to work with or for someone, and ask for assistance at work, if you do not like the people specifically, or as part of a group.
I am not suggesting that you be an 'expert' on that business or the industry. However, it is your job to sell yourself (skills, knowledge & experience) and minimise negatives, in such a way, that impresses on the interviewer, that you have qualities that contribute to the goals of the company or business.
There really is no other reason for employing you; or anyone else.
Many people believe that their applications for employment have been declined because of discrimination, in its various guises. While I recognise that, unfortunately, these situations occur, I wouldn't want to work, with or for someone, where that mentality exists. However, it has been my experience as a person close to those with the responsibility of selecting and recruiting prospective employees, that the core reasons, for declined applications, are usually to do with not meeting the criteria that I have stated in the last paragraph. Indeed, there are times when reverse discrimination is expected by a prospective applicant -
"You should employ me because of my disability."
Unfortunately, when selecting a small number of possible employees from a large number of prospective applicants, the recruiting person is not responsible, in any case, for guiding the /ir unsuccessful applicants to a more successful goal. That is the task of your advocate, or the best person you can find for that task. See the closing comments on this note.
If you are seeking a role in administration, or an associated function, you should ensure that any written material offered to a prospective employer has been proof-read by you first, and then someone else, upon whom you can rely for their English language skills and knowledge. If you are successful, you may get to use a dictionary on the job, but that will not suffice for grammar. It would be useful to practice in your posts on this website. I do.
This note, and others that I write, take a good deal of time and attention. I proof-read, correct, adjust and proof-read again. Even then, I return to posts to edit them for further clarity and purpose.
I believe that there have been some false positives offered to you among the responses. These are well meaning, and intended to support you in your attempt to seek employment. However, encouraging you to continue doing the types of things that you are, either doing incorrectly, doing in a blaze of enthusiasm without substance, or even, not doing at all, are all, similarly self defeating and discouraging.
I would recommend that you ask the question,
“Who exactly should I write to about how to find a job?”
or, “From whom should such information be sought?”
The answer to your question,
“Who exactly should I write to about not finding work?”
Is "Anyone!!"
but that will not be the best person to help you to seek employment, increase your knowledge, and otherwise, learn from the experience.
{And please, please do not write to your Member of Parliament with this question.}
I do indeed hope that what I have written will help you, and possibly others, to ask the right questions, of the right people, to provide you with the appropriate information and guidance, that will assist you in gaining the meaningful employment that you are seeking.
With My Very Best Wishes
Toward Success in Achieving Your Goals,
HenryX
CC: @StuF @TideisTurning @Sophia1
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