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20-10-2018 04:59 PM
20-10-2018 04:59 PM
Re: Social Anxiety (Phobia)
Lazy weekend procrastinating on assessments due. Haha.
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20-10-2018 07:41 PM
20-10-2018 07:41 PM
Re: Social Anxiety (Phobia)
Hello @GoatV2-0
it is soo good to see you around the forum
how many children do you have
I have 4 step children who are all young adults now
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20-10-2018 08:50 PM
20-10-2018 08:50 PM
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Thanks Shaz. I'm glad I found this place.
I have 2 boys. One is 4 and the youngest is 2 and a half.
Keep us very busy and stressed, but I love them to bits 😊
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20-10-2018 08:52 PM
20-10-2018 08:52 PM
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lovely ages @GoatV2-0, busy but lovely
I did private childcare for 25 years , I loved it
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20-10-2018 09:17 PM
20-10-2018 09:17 PM
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05-06-2019 09:38 PM
05-06-2019 09:38 PM
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Hi GoatV2-0,
I see this is an old post so I hope you don't mind me responding to it now and sharing my experience with social anxiety
Also, thanks for the details on IFS.
I hope things are going well for you.
I really struggle with various forms of social anxiety.... one is of 'running out of conversation'... in that most social interactions I have these days are over coffee, dinner or drinks - I put a lot of pressure to 'connect' and feel like a failure if I don't. My anxiety changes with my mood, if I am happy I can be reasonably confident and I enjoy meeting up with people, if I am depressed it plummets to all time lows. Recently I was out on a couple of day walks with friends... but spent the entire time worried what they thought of me...
If a conversation isn't a positive experience to me...my interpretation is that there is something wrong with me, that it is my fault, and that the person or people I am with will judge me poorly and I will lose an opportunity to build a relationship or lose a current one...
These experiences are really distressing to me as without feeling connected to people I tend towards depression (I guess I have placed a lot of pressure on myself there then!)
In reality, I understand that if you don't see people on a regular basis it can be hard to have a meaningful conversation... and yet my anxiety takes over and can be really intense that I'd rather avoid it altogether.
My experience might be somewhat different than yours, but know I'm in your corner
all the best
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20-11-2020 09:48 AM
20-11-2020 09:48 AM
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Every social situation is awkward and extremely uncomfortable for me. I am full of paranoia that people are looking at me and judging me. It's gotten to the point I lay in bed at night dreading possible and likely scenarios where I have to go out of the house. It has gotten to the point I dread my friends and family dying because I will have to go to their funeral as expected.
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20-11-2020 11:45 AM
20-11-2020 11:45 AM
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- chat online
- talk over the back fence
- ring someone
- exchange the weather with sales staff
- take a bus / train trip (covid safe of cause lol)
- etc
Spend as much time as you can with nonjudgmental people and this will drown out the fear triggered by the others. Be kind to yourself too, don't be hard on yourself, in your mind. Its taken me years to remember and learn to apply these things - its ongoing. Like diabetics have to manage a disfunctional blood sugar, we have to manage social hobia, proactively.
There's no cure, just management I think.
Often I drag my feet out the door, some days it actually pays off and I sending me home that little bit happier, even if just for a day.
Don't give up 😊
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20-11-2020 12:02 PM
20-11-2020 12:02 PM
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The weekend just went my friends took me to see a band, I was anxious the whole time, but I did get some enjoyment out of it.
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